My grandmother in her fabulous hat, gloves and fur on her way somewhere. The 1930 Census Her grandaughter I’ve been thinking a lot about my grandmother lately. She died when I was five years old, but she was a significant presence in my early childhood even though we didn’t have a lot of time together. Recently, my thoughts about her have gravitated to the similarities of our life trajectories and occasionally wondering if I inherited some genetic mutation which has given me

Mexico City Museo del Palacio de Bellas Artes at the ballet, salsa dancing at Mamma Rumba and lunch at Rosetta (with Leslie, not alone!) The Fall has dropped off some new insights, some sadness and a lot of sitting with loneliness.   Muchas gracias, Fall.  I would have been content to sit on my couch with my husband binging Netflix, even letting him watch the sci-fi, war-alien-creature-space shows rather than confront some of these emotions. Alas, life has served-up an entire

On my way to one of the Summer of 2025 dates. Look at that optimism!        I dipped my toes back into the dating pool this summer, on...

The 2025 Perpetual Roof Project I’m on a self-help-book kick right now, reading about how to date at my age and not “ Die Alone ” (Logan...

Jon and me with our Mermaid hair at Iguazu Falls, Argentina, March 2025 I had a moment the other day which made me wonder if my life is...

Two years ago this month my husband Bill died, leaving me, his family and friends to mourn his loss and find a way forward without him....

Sunday evenings at my house are known as ‘steak night.’ Most of you in my regular orbit know about steak night and how this is a sacred,...

Over the last 19 months, I’ve spent several weeks in Portugal, Costa Rica and Columbia to escape daily life and the void left by my...

When someone sends you a message they are closing the door to you, it should come equipped with a deadbolt and alarm system so you cannot...

Burn out  is common with online dating and at some point most of us find we need to get off the apps, clean out our inboxes and take a...

I was man-browsing one evening on the Facebook Dating platform which is never a good idea because there is no barrier to entry – it’s...

Bill and me in Lodi, CA, 2021 “A Wiccan, narcissist and adulterer walk into a bar…” This is not a poor ChatGPT joke. I actually matched...

There is no chapter in the vintage Dr. Spock’s Baby and Childcare (one of the best-selling books of the 20th century) for what to do...

Dating apps have more ghosts than a New Orleans cemetery and they are not friendly, notorious or have a great story. These ghosts are...

Since launching this blog six weeks ago, I have been honored to have some deep and profound conversations about loss, love, death, grief,...

The world is full of signs - subtle, precautionary, and those which are obvious and impossible to miss. And yet, when entering dating...

I’m on my way to have dinner with some dude who I’m not sure I’m at all interested in, but checks a lot of existential boxes and I need...

The price of love today runs the average single person between $19 to $100 a month to expose yourself on popular dating apps.  Inflation...

(I actually have a 1964 Red Corvair convertible in my garage, ergo the image above.) Endings are just beginnings in disguise, whether we...

As far as I’m concerned, the only thing that happened in the entire world in 2023 is that my husband died. I faintly remember other...